Dr. Fenibo Braide said...
Most times children who have been deserted, neglected or abused feel more anger than most other children. This is because their fundamental human needs have not been adequately met.
Solution: If you happen to find yourself in this situation, first accept the child's anger as legitimate. Reassure the child that he / she is worthwhile even when angry.
Children in relative care often feels that they are to blame for being taken away from their biological parents. They are also angry at themselves, therefore, inconsistent discipline like rules and boundaries in previous or present environment can attribute and lead to anger.
Please note: most times, as children grow close to the people with whom they live in relative care, they may also transfer some of their angry feelings from their biological family to these people. Sometimes they may or may not appreciate everything you do for them.
Solution: Be consistent with rules. Talk with the child about anger; what it is and what makes him or her angry, identify and recognize what triggers the child's anger. Then develop practical and safe methods for expressing anger feelings when the direct expression of anger is not advisable; and more importantly, take time to understand the child or children in your care.
Good luck !!!
Dr. Fenibo Braide
Psychotherapist
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