Sex Therapy----Redefined

Frequent Healthy Sex Life with Orgasm Can Lead to Mental Stability---says your Therapist.

Sexual therapists have made it clear that orgasm experience helps burn out some amount of fat around the heart tissues and neural pathways in the spine. Regular orgasmic sex helps one's confidence, improves self-esteem, vitality, strength, energy and cardiovascular health.


So, Lets Talk About Sex - Baby!.

Lets Talk About You And Me - (have you heard that song...)????

According to research---in early 1950s a well known therapist defined orgasm as "explosive discharge of neuromuscular tension." Although, there are other definitions, but most of the time the word 'tension' is recurrent. This suggests that sexual intercourse is a normal activity between couples when engage in utmost satisfaction.

Beyond this, a lot of incredible things happen in the human body. For a man or woman to experience a sizzling and burning orgasm, the heart pumps faster while the individual breaths heavily to fuel the muscles. Then, hormones such as endorphins and oxytocin send instant messages about the sexual activity to the brain and other sensitive parts of the body. In a jiffy, blood is pumped into the genital region to create the tension that ultimately triggers a pudenda reflex (this is a muscular spasm of the genitals). The immediate reflex results in our pelvic-floor muscles, contracting between five and fifteen times at 0.8 seconds intervals. This is the wonder of orgasm we experience during sexual intercourse.

This explosive discharge of neuromuscular tension is not only peculiar to the male gender, it is also present in the female gender. The most prominent and sensitive female organ that could trigger orgasm anytime during sexual activity is the manipulation of the clitoris. This organ is about two inches above the vaginal opening, located in from and above the opening of the urethra or urine outlet.

The clitoris is the most sexually sensitive part of the female reproductive organ; it becomes slightly enlarged and erect in response to sexual stimulation. This is called the female 'sexual trigger.'

According to research, most women especially married women do not experience orgasm because their husbands hardly take quality time to lovingly and gently caress this organ during foreplay. Sufficient stimulation of this organ during foreplay produces the orgasm experience in nearly all women.

However, it should be noted that this must be done with utmost care, as many husbands had in the course of caressing the clitoris inflicted pains and injuries on their wives. What is recommended of such husband is merely a feather touch caressing, or better still by using tongue or fingers to stimulate the organ can produce orgasm within a twinkle of an eye (says Akin...).

Unfortunately, in most parts of Africa this wonderful structure that gives confidence to a woman is usually removed or mutilated during female circumcision. Female genital mutilation entails the removal of the vulva of a woman--either in part or whole. this is done to reduce her libido and prevent promiscuity. A woman who had undergone this type of local surgery at any level will probably take longer to experience orgasm depending on her willingness to reveal her G-spot to the husband. Say No! to female circumcision, it is cruel, old fashion and sometimes deadly.

Dr. Fenibo Braide, is a psychotherapist at the Behavioral health Center in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.

IFSI Lead Clinician
July 8, 2010