Causation and Anger Management
It is critical that one understand the causation and how to manage anger and explosive behavior. I believe that anger is caused by frustration of ones desires and ego. Managing anger must be done at two levels: (1) the behavioral and (2) the psychoanalytic level.
At the behavioral level, if someone is angry, one does whatever one could to calm down, including walking away from the arousing stimulus, taking deep breaths, visualizing pleasant scenes and counting one to twenty etc. The psychoanalytic level includes ones ability to recognize what triggers ones anger. The problem is when someone is angry a certain neurochemicals aroused to cloud ones judgment. People tend to think and act irrationally when they are angry; therefore, it is necessary to calm down and let those neurotransmitters, such as acetylcholine and noradrenalin, return to their respective neuro-receptors in the brain before one talks or does anything.
When angry one is bound to act violently; this is due to the elicited chemical in the brain. If one does not want to act violently one must do whatever that calms one down before does any thing. Not saying anything when you are angry is probably the best anger management technique. If one talked while angry one is bound to berate the other person. Sometimes to walk away during a heated argument is not the best solution either. At the psychoanalytic level one must recognize that it is not the external environment alone that makes one angry but also how we process stimuli from the environment. Albert Ellis, in his Cognitive Behavior Therapy, says that it is not what happens out there in the environment that makes one angry, sad or anxious but how one thinks about it. In effect, it is ones thinking, ones cognition that plays a major role in ones behavior. One must, therefore, change ones thinking and habitual behavior patterns: Stop! Listen!! Think!!!...before you Act.
Anger also has to do with environmental factors and disappointments. When one understand that ones big ego / self concept plays a role in ones anger; then one can choose to do something about it. Denial of what is reality is not the same thing as dealing with reality. On the other hand, some folks think that they do not have anger problem – that is a denial. My job as a psychotherapist is to coach not to employ the ego defense mechanism of denial to delude ourselves into thinking that we are perfect, rather, to see ourselves as we are imperfect, and do something about our imperfections, and make changes where possible and live with what can and what cannot be change. Science does not indulge in denial; instead, it studies Reality as it is and devices a technology to adapt to it. In this case science studies the human psyche (mind), understands its propensity to upsets and devices a tool to deal with those upsets.
No one is perfect, I am easily lost and frustrated when something is displaced (my wife knows that). All my life if another person kept me waiting, I do not care who that person is, be it The Director General of the United Nations, I felt angry and feel like asking him or her "who the hell you think you are" for keeping me waiting. Notwithstanding, I consider myself lucky for my beautiful wife Christiana Fenibo Braide, who knows the rules and takes control of unforseen situations. Anger management for me and those like me means studying our grandiose self concepts and recognizing the environmental role in eliciting anger in us and managing both aspects of the equation. It is not easy, but one must shrink ones swollen Ego and have patience when frustrated by others. No one can ever get to a point where he is no longer prone to anger. As long as we are human, one must experience frustrations at some point and must sometimes react with anger. In other words, anger is manageable but cannot be eliminated in our lives.
Dr. Fenibo Braide
Psychotherapist / Academic Consultant
ZION Institute, Baltimore, MD
01/14/10
Dr. Fenny Braide
IFSI Lead Clinician / Administrator
Philadelphia, Pennsylvania
01/14/10
Thursday, January 14, 2010
Monday, January 11, 2010
2010: Is Your Teen Ready to Drive?
2010: Is Your Teen Ready to Drive...?
So your baby is all grown up (or you think he / she is) and wants to get his or her first driver's license. Having a teen on your auto policy is likely to raise the price of your insurance premium; there are things you can do to increase the chances for your teen to become a safe driver.
First, you need to set a good example. If you speed, tailgate, and or drive aggressively, your teen probably will also drive in that pattern.
Recommendation: Relax, slow down, and show your child high-way ethics and how to share road with other drivers.
Insist that your teen wear seat belt---wearing a seat belt has been proven to be the best way to prevent injuries in case of accident. Make sure that your teen wears his or her seat belt every time (he/she) drives.
Many teenagers think that they are 7 to 10 feet tall and bulletproof, and that nothing bad can happen to them while driving. But as a parent you know better, set a clear limit and take control before asking your child to seat behind the wheel. Studies have shown that teens are more easily distracted than more experienced drivers, and so, limit the amount of distractions while driving with your teenager(s) in the car.
You can restrict the number of people that your teen is allowed to have in the car or prohibit your teen from using the mobile phone, texting, or eating while driving.
Nighttime / snow or ice is a more dangerous time to drive, so set a "driving curfew" a time by which your teenager has to be back home. Drinking and driving: which is not safe for any driver (also against the law) must absolutely prohibited.
Dr. Fenibo Braide
Psychotherapist
01/11/10
So your baby is all grown up (or you think he / she is) and wants to get his or her first driver's license. Having a teen on your auto policy is likely to raise the price of your insurance premium; there are things you can do to increase the chances for your teen to become a safe driver.
First, you need to set a good example. If you speed, tailgate, and or drive aggressively, your teen probably will also drive in that pattern.
Recommendation: Relax, slow down, and show your child high-way ethics and how to share road with other drivers.
Insist that your teen wear seat belt---wearing a seat belt has been proven to be the best way to prevent injuries in case of accident. Make sure that your teen wears his or her seat belt every time (he/she) drives.
Many teenagers think that they are 7 to 10 feet tall and bulletproof, and that nothing bad can happen to them while driving. But as a parent you know better, set a clear limit and take control before asking your child to seat behind the wheel. Studies have shown that teens are more easily distracted than more experienced drivers, and so, limit the amount of distractions while driving with your teenager(s) in the car.
You can restrict the number of people that your teen is allowed to have in the car or prohibit your teen from using the mobile phone, texting, or eating while driving.
Nighttime / snow or ice is a more dangerous time to drive, so set a "driving curfew" a time by which your teenager has to be back home. Drinking and driving: which is not safe for any driver (also against the law) must absolutely prohibited.
Dr. Fenibo Braide
Psychotherapist
01/11/10
Monday, January 4, 2010
The Biography of Dr.Fenibo Braide
Biography: Dr. Fenibo Briade
Dr. Fenibo Braide was born in Buguma, Nigeria. He attended Kalabari National College, Buguma and passed with grade two in 1978 before proceeding to City Tutorial College, London in 1982.
After graduating from high school he worked for the Rivers state government as accounts clerk in Governor's office for two years. Dr. Fenibo Braide studied Portuguese and Sociology at the Universidade de Brasilia, Brazil, and later became a Diplomat in "Charge D' Affairs" and Security of the Nigerian Embassy in Brazil.
In 1989 Dr. Fenibo Braide relocated to the United States as a contractual employee for the United States Air Force, Warner Robins Air Force Base, Georgia. He sat and passed the US Federal civil service exam and worked five years as a letter carrier and transitional postal inspector for the United States Postal Service in Philadelphia before proceeding to graduate school.
Dr. Braide is currently a resident of the city of brotherly love (Philadelphia) for more than sixteen years. He is a licensed psychotherapist with over ten years experience in diagnostic and medication management in mental illness.
He has participated in research investigations of the psychopathology of depression, suicide, anxiety disorders, panic disorders, alcoholism, drug abuse, bipolar, schizophrenia and personality disorders. Dr. Fenny Fenibo Braide is a graduate of Lincoln University, Pennsylvania and had his post graduate studies in human development at Walden, Indiana University and the University of Southern Minnesota. He is listed in the 2007-2008 edition of “Who’s Who” in the field of social services in America.
Dr. Braide has been a member or consultant and served as a board of many organizations. He has written a comprehensive research studies on "Therapeutic intervention to violent behavior in foster homes" institutionalized in the city of Philadelphia in 2002. Dr. Fenibo Braide has also lectured and published numerous articles on the web. He is currently a consultant and clinical administrator at the Behavioral Health Center in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
o1/04/10
Dr. Fenibo Braide was born in Buguma, Nigeria. He attended Kalabari National College, Buguma and passed with grade two in 1978 before proceeding to City Tutorial College, London in 1982.
After graduating from high school he worked for the Rivers state government as accounts clerk in Governor's office for two years. Dr. Fenibo Braide studied Portuguese and Sociology at the Universidade de Brasilia, Brazil, and later became a Diplomat in "Charge D' Affairs" and Security of the Nigerian Embassy in Brazil.
In 1989 Dr. Fenibo Braide relocated to the United States as a contractual employee for the United States Air Force, Warner Robins Air Force Base, Georgia. He sat and passed the US Federal civil service exam and worked five years as a letter carrier and transitional postal inspector for the United States Postal Service in Philadelphia before proceeding to graduate school.
Dr. Braide is currently a resident of the city of brotherly love (Philadelphia) for more than sixteen years. He is a licensed psychotherapist with over ten years experience in diagnostic and medication management in mental illness.
He has participated in research investigations of the psychopathology of depression, suicide, anxiety disorders, panic disorders, alcoholism, drug abuse, bipolar, schizophrenia and personality disorders. Dr. Fenny Fenibo Braide is a graduate of Lincoln University, Pennsylvania and had his post graduate studies in human development at Walden, Indiana University and the University of Southern Minnesota. He is listed in the 2007-2008 edition of “Who’s Who” in the field of social services in America.
Dr. Braide has been a member or consultant and served as a board of many organizations. He has written a comprehensive research studies on "Therapeutic intervention to violent behavior in foster homes" institutionalized in the city of Philadelphia in 2002. Dr. Fenibo Braide has also lectured and published numerous articles on the web. He is currently a consultant and clinical administrator at the Behavioral Health Center in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania.
o1/04/10
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